Fox River Penitentiary v.s. Litchfield Prison

I'm going to go out on a whim this week and do something different. This week, I'm not going to complain about something because I'm just not feeling it. Instead, I just want to highlight an observation I've made in the last month or so.

So, anyone that's close to me or talks to me on a regular basis must have realized that I've been m.i.a for the past month. It's not that I've been crammed with school and work and it's not like I went on vacation or anything fabulous like that. Instead, I've been locking myself in my room for hours on end binge watching Prison Break. If you haven't already watched the show, you need to drop what you're doing (after reading this post) and start because it.is. AMAZING. It's smart, it's suspenseful, and the characters are just so delicious. But, man oh man, they make jail look so scary. There's an incredible amount of dangerous blackmail, riots, chopped limbs and handmade weapons. You have to be smart to survive. But, this shouldn't come as a surprise, right? Jail is home to hardcore criminals who have murdered, kidnapped, stolen, raped, etc. etc. etc. so it's obvious that jail is a scary place. 

To me though, it was a reality check. Why? Because before I watched Prison Break, I watched Orange is the New Black... and it was nothing like Prison Break. OITNB made jail look like fun! It seemed like one big high school. There were cliques, a hierarchy, fun activities, classes, a TV room..and most importantly, no missing limbs (at least not in the first season. I haven't started the second season to know if things have changed)

Just look at the difference:

Look how serious the PB picture is and how happy the OITNB group is. Would you rather be in at Fox River Penitentiary (Prison Break) or Litchfield Prison (OITNB)? 

The scariest criminal on Prison Break is this dude:

While the character I feared most was Pennsatucky:

Why the drastic difference? I don't know. Is there some hidden sexism in there? Maybe. I can't really take female prison seriously and I get the impression that female criminals aren't that bad anyway. It shoots down the idea that women aren't capable of being tough, even though the population of female prisons grow faster than male prisons. Red, however is my favourite character as she knows how to play the prison game. She's tough, conniving, powerful and instills fear in everyone. She's what everyone needs to be like on the show

To be fair, OITNB was written by a mainly female group of writers and is based on Piper Kerman's memoir, "Orange is the New Black: My Year in a Women's Prison, so there is some credibility to the reality of a female prison. Also, kudos to having a mainly female writing staff and crew. It shows that women have come a long way in making it into a predominantly male industry and are able to come up with edgy material. It's a step in the right direction and it's only a matter of time before we see more women in the industry working behind the scenes. 

Boys Don't Cry

Today I was casually going through my Facebook homefeed and I came across this caption that said "Boys Don't Cry", so naturally I was intrigued. The video was created by Vogue India and based on the title, "#StartWithTheBoys", I assumed that this video aimed to show the cultural bias in which boys are taught at a young age that they shouldn't cry.

And for the most part, I thought that they depicted it well...

Here we are shown the life of a young Indian man as he goes through his life learning that boy's don't cry. At this point, I was getting excited because I thought that the goal of the video was to show that there's nothing wrong with crying. 

Finally, a video that speaks about masculinity issues

My imagination jumped ahead and I was looking forward to the last scene in which I assumed that the young man would grow up to be a father and he would hold his baby boy in his arms and tell him that it was OK to cry. He would teach the young boy that there's nothing wrong with crying, regardless of gender. But then the video moves into this scene:

Here, we see an emotionless man (who resembles an Indian Edward Cullen, am I right?) who has just battered his partner. Okay.... so what I interpret from this scene is that raising boys to think that it's not OK to cry leads to violence. And then here's the kicker...

THAT'S HOW THEY CHOSE TO END THIS VIDEO?!

Here's what I have a problem with:

1) All boys/men cry and that's OK. If you're a guy and you're reading this, don't pretend that you don't. Boys shouldn't be told not to cry. Enforcing this social "norm" is oppressive. It's telling society that if you are a boy, you're not supposed to express your emotions and that there's nothing manly about it. This video did not even speak about that. 

2) The video remarks that "only girls cry." So? Is that a bad thing? I can't believe that a video aimed at protecting women also implies girls as a negative connotation.

3) What does a man not being able to cry have to do with domestic abuse? Does that mean that all cryers don't abuse their partners?  I get that men who don't cry are usually rigid, but there are also many reasons why men abuse their partners. This usually comes from a need for power and control, which stems from low self-esteem. Although the societal rule that boys don't cry is a contributing factor, it's not the factor. 

4) Men are not responsible for my happiness. I'm responsible for my happiness. If a man is abusing me, I'm out of there. Sure, it's easier said than done in some cases, but still. How about teaching all children how to treat others? Why is it that we have to teach boys how to treat girls? Wouldn't it be more fruitful if we taught our children to treat everyone with respect and dignity? What does gender have to do with it? End of the day, we're all human.

I appreciate Vogue India for continuing the discussion of domestic violence, but I think they went about it all wrong. I genuinely thought that this video was aimed at eradicating the idea that a manly man does not cry and so I was disappointed with how the video ended.

If Justin Timberlake is able to Cry a River after his break up with Britney, I don't see why you can't either.. and yet, that man is still damn fine. 

The NO NO List

Every so often I run into a newly broken up individual who is at wits end with the dating game. At this point, they're ready to give up on relationships all together and wonder why none of their relationships ever work out. This is where I introduce to them the no-no list. Now, I'm not saying that I'm a love guru or anything, but I do know a thing or two about relationships [Five years and counting ;) ]

I've never really been in the dating game because my partner and I have been together since my teenage years, but I think that I got it right the first time around because I knew what I wanted in a man... and what I didn't want. This idea of what I don't want in a man is what I call the NO NO list.

The NO NO list is a list of characteristics that I absolutely will not tolerate in my man. If the guy I am dating shows me any one of these traits and it cannot be changed, I won't even hesitate to press that reject button. 

Everyone's NO NO list is different, depending on your values and needs. Here's mine:

1. Arrogance. [Not to be confused with confidence.]Men who think they are such a big deal without any reason is an automatic NO NO. Are you reaping the benefits of your parents' money and pretending like it's yours? Are you putting on the tough guy act pretending like you beat up guys who talk smack? Do you show off EVERY SINGLE ACCOMPLISHMENT? NEXT.
2. Men who don't know the difference between there, their and they're (or commit any other simple grammatical faux pas). So let's say I'm texting a guy I'm interested in and he repeatedly shows me that he doesn't know how to use the three.What a turn off. It shows me that you a) probably don't read a lot b) don't value the education that you have and c) haven't tried to learn the difference. I make exceptions for those who are new to the country and are still learning English. But, if you've been in Canada for the majority of your life and have gone through formal education, I don't see why you don't know the difference.
3. Guys who refer to their girlfriends as their bitches. How rude. This is your girlfriend we're talking about, have a little respect. You're supposed to love and care for her. Is that what you would call your mother? A man who doesn't respect women is not husband material.
4. Guys who can't hold an intelligent conversation/debate with me. I don't care how hot you are, if you can't talk to me about something profound or remotely interesting that doesn't challenge my way of thinking, move on. What's sexy is a man who can stump me and make me say, "you got me." and just shut me up. However, with that said, if you prove your point and act like an ass about it and rub it in my face.. see number 1.
5. A know-it-all. I knew this one guy who had a rebuttal for literally anything I said. I found him to be attractive in the first place because he seemed really intelligent and ambitious and was always adding to my repertoire of knowledge. However, when it came time for me to share my knowledge or opinion, he always found something wrong with it. I'm entitled to my opinion, jerk. How do you have a conversation with someone like that? Glad I dodged that bullet. 
6. Guys who only talk about themselves. I went to coffee with a male friend of mine and in the time we were conversing over our fraps, I wanted to shoot myself. He would spend 15 minutes straight talking about himself (and this is not even an exaggeration), ask about me, completely ignore what I had to say and then continue talking about himself. Why am I even here? You might as well talk to a wall and get the same reaction. Needless to say, that was the last time we went for coffee. 

For all those who are finding that they're having a bit of bad luck in the dating scene and can't seem to find the right kind of person, I encourage you to make your own NO NO list. It helps with the filtering process and saves you a lot of time and heartbreak. Date smarter, people!

Sorry, I'm not interested

A few months ago, I came across this article, "Stop Saying "I have a boyfriend" to deflect unwanted attention." and it really spoke to me. For a few years now, if any male showed me any indication that he was interested in me, I was very quick to play the boyfriend card... even if I didn't have a boyfriend at the time. To me, it was convenient. It seemed like a win-win situation: No one's feelings got hurt and there's no awkwardness on the guy's end (or so I assume). BUT, after reading this article, I see why this is a big problem.

First of all, saying that I have a boyfriend shouldn't really mean a thing. So what if I have a boyfriend? If I were to remove my boyfriend out of the equation, does that mean that I would suddenly be interested in you? Nope.

What happens if I'm in a relationship with someone and you happen to pique my interest? Am I going ditch the oppourtunity to try you out because I have a man? Nope. [I'm not implying cheating here but if you're just having fun and not in a serious relationship, then why not? Be sure to tell your partner first.]

Telling a guy that I have a boyfriend shows him that 1) I don't have any control over the situation and 2) I kinda dig you but having a man prevents me from pursuing any kind of relationship with you. These two messages are probably not even right to begin with.

Basically, what I'm trying to say is that your decision to reject a guy is independent of the fact that you have a boyfriend. You're rejecting the guy simply because you're not interested in having a relationship with him. Period. And, of course, this applies to guys as well. If you're not interested in starting anything with her, tell her. 

So, with that in mind, I decided to try it out. I told myself that I was going to throw the "I'm not interested" line on the next guy that asks me my number. 

So picture this. 

I work at a private counselling agency and I get somewhat chummy with my clients. It's my style of counselling and I find that it helps more times than not. So anyways, I get chummy with this client.. Richard (Obviously not his real name but we'll call him that because everyone knows that the nickname for Richard is Dick). So Richard's next appointment is coming up and I usually call clients ahead of time to confirm their attendance. I call up Richard and let him know that he has an appointment tomorrow and was wondering if he would be able to make it. He says no and that he has to re-schedule. As I'm trying to accommodate him into the schedule, he starts putting on the moves and casually asks me for my number. I then (kindly, if I may add) told him that that was sweet and thanked him for the compliments, but then let him know that that was not going to happen. He sounded a little surprised (Richard disclosed to me in counselling that no one has ever rejected him) and asked me why. My feminist, empowered brain kicked into high gear and I remembered the article and proudly said the three words that I vowed to use: I'm not interested.

Oh hell, did that backfire.

Following my courageous words was the longest awkward silence. I felt triumphant up until the silence was broken with Richard laughing and saying, "Oh wow, this must be really embarrassing for you. I did not mean it like that."

Excuse me? Why else are you trying to get my number? You trying to sell me car insurance or something? 

How did he turn this around and embarrass me? Like I said something wrong. Telling guys that you're not interested may be the right thing to do in theory, but hella hard when putting it into practice. 

People, don't make this harder than it is. If someone is not interested in you, then it is what it is. Move on. End of the day, it comes down to respect. If you don't respect my wishes, you sure as hell won't respect me as a partner. 

Don't be a Richard about it

There she is, Miss America

This week I watched a brilliant video by John Oliver as he takes an intellectual/satirical approach to dissecting beauty pageants. Growing up, I've never really been a fan of watching these pageants, and quite frankly, I hated the fact that they always interrupted whatever show that was previously programmed to air. Rude. How could they move aside the Simpsons for this?

These days though, I find that I still don't like pageants...but for other reasons. All in all, you're probably going to get a biased opinion here. For the sake of research, I wanted to sit through the pageant and really absorb what it's about, but to be honest, I can barely sit through 10 minutes of it. I really don't see the point of it. Women dress up, look pretty, walk up and down a run way and are evaluated on... beauty? How well they can walk in a straight line? How well they matched their bikini to their lipstick? How well they can answer a question in 20 seconds? 

From what I've heard and in what I've seen, my understanding of pageants is that it's a competition and that there's some prize money associated with it. I have no quarrels with this. I like a little competition as much as the next person. Throw some prize money in there and you got a deal. Hell, you're talking to Miss "sits around the radio waiting to be caller number 9 so I can win some random prize" over here. However, what I do find annoying is the emptiness of the competition. 

Again, what am I being evaluated on? I went on the Miss America website and found this:

Finals Competition Scoring

The scoring for the Miss America Finals Competition is weighted accordingly:

Composite Score- 30% (Top 16)

Lifestyle and Fitness in Swimsuit - 20% (Top 16)

Evening Wear- 20% (Top 10)

Talent- 30% (Top 8)

On Stage Question (Top 8)

Final Ballot

Source: http://www.missamerica.org/news/press-kit/national-judging-process.aspx

Here's what I have a problem with: 

1) Lifestyle and Fitness in Swimsuit:

Ok, so you look great in a swim suit. You must have worked really hard to get there. I'm not even being sarcastic . Anyone who has ever been to a gym religiously knows how hard it is to maintain a nice body so koodos to you for sticking to your guns and achieving it. But, so what? You have a nice body. Great. Now what? Why is your body shape so important that it has to be rated? Why do I care what kind of body you have? 

What's the criteria here anyway? Are we looking at size ratios? Are we looking to see if you have a thigh gap? flat stomach? muffin top?  How can anyone standardize the definition of a beautiful body? What does a beautiful body even look like?

2) Evening wear:

What are we really judging here? Your taste in dresses? How well you can pull off a dress? What happens if you pick out a hideous dress? Do we blame the dress for your low score? It's the dress' fault that you didn't win Miss America? Why is this category even relevant? So many questions.

3) On stage Question:

What are we really proving here? How well someone can answer a question in 20 seconds? John Oliver says it best in that even the president cannot come up with an answer that quickly. By the way, did anyone actually notice that the contestants are not even evaluated on their answers? There's no weighted value associated with it. So basically, you can have a kick ass solution to world hunger, but it doesn't count towards anything.

Besides, I'm no expert on the matter, but I've never actually seen Miss America (or any other pageant winner) acting on any of the things that they claim they would do. I feel that they just tell us what we want to hear and pretend like these are the issues that really matter to them.

Overall, I believe that pageants are designed to showcase outer beauty. I'm not saying that outer beauty isn't important, but that there is more to an individual than how he or she presents themselves. I thought that the question and answer portion of the competition was the most bearable because it provides an opportunity to pick out their brains but, as you can see, it doesn't even matter in the end. It barely has any weight in the outcome. Why aren't we praising people for their intellect or their achievement? Why are we not showcasing women who think outside the box in order to make a difference in the world? Why are we so hung up in finding women in bikinis and evening gowns attractive and not women in lab coats? When was the last time your regular programming was interrupted for the Nobel Prize Award Ceremonies? Think about THAT.

I seriously recommend watching the full video...

The 100th Problem

The 100th Problem

If you know me well, you would know that I love 9GAG and memes. Within a few minutes of scrolling through the website, I am up to date with current events, impending world wars, viral outbreaks, latest trends and celebrity gossip. Hell, I already know what the weather is like outside without looking out the window. Chances are, someone has already made a post about it. With that said, I consider 9GAG and any other similar site as a social thermometer. 9GAG gives me an idea of how society views and perceives issues. I see it as a social study that helps me see where society stands on certain topics that are not otherwise discussed at length. One such topic is male abuse.

Remember when TMZ leaked video footage of Jay-Z being beat down by his sister-in-law, Solange Knowles, after the Met Gala? I don’t know about you, but that footage was jaw-dropping scary. I wasn’t aware of the incident until these started popping up on my 9GAG…

 

Yes, they were funny. I would be lying if I said I didn’t laugh. But seriously though, male abuse is no laughing  matter. Let me be clear here. Abuse is abuse, whether it is done by a man or woman. But, it seems to me that male abuse is one of society’s best kept secrets.

According to a national survey conducted in 2013, roughly 25% of male Canadians suffer from some type of domestic abuse. I, however, suspect that this statistic is much higher. Most male abuse is unreported as men are usually ashamed of admitting that their female partner is abusive. It’s not just phyiscal abuse we’re talking about either. It’s also emotional, psychological, financial and isolation abuse.

I don’t blame men for not admiting to others that their partner abuses them. Just look at all the ridicule that Jay-Z suffered on 9GAG. Remember that society paints a picture of how men and women are expected to behave. Men are supposed to be strong and macho. Women are supposed to be kind and nurturing. So when a dainty woman is fly kicking a big, muscular, macho man, everyone’s cracking jokes and questioning his “manhood” . Flip the scenario the other way around in which the man beats up the woman and suddenly everyones crossing their arms and are thinking that he should have known better.

Other than a few comments on the posting, I barely saw any posts that condemn Solange for her actions. If anything, I encountered justifications for her behaviour.

“Solange suspected Jay-Z of cheating”

“Jay-Z had made a move on Solange”

“Jay-Z had insulted Solange”

They almost exonerate her for her actions! All these comments take away Solange’s responsibilty and role in the abuse and continue to make Jay-Z the bad guy. Why does he have to be ashamed when he allegedly didn’t do anything? What kind of message are we sending to society, especially males, when we ridicule Jay-Z? We’re saying that if your woman, or any woman for that matter, abuses you, it’s probably your fault and you should man up and take it.

Uhhh…..no.

What needs to change is the idea that abuse is abuse, regardless of who is delivering it and in what form. That’s the bottom line. It hurts and we won’t stand by it. It’s up to us to accept that abuse can happen to anyone. Rather than mocking someone for their experiences, be empathetic towards them. Lend them an open, non-judgmental ear.  It might make all the difference in their life. Solve their 100th problem

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“From the Sidelines” is the section of the blog where I post links/ information about the pop culture references or resources I may have used in today’s post.

TMZ Video Footage of the infamous Solange vs. Jay-Z

http://www.tmz.com/videos/0_6lrpg6kh/

Jay-Z's 99 Problems

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WwoM5fLITfk

Solange's Losing you

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hy9W_mrY_Vk

9GAG

 www.9gag.com 

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Pulling Teeth

Artist: Green Day

Album: Dookie (1994)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y3R7qASk6dg

Let me know if you find any other songs that are remotely related to male abuse! I'm curious to see what's out there

Mean Girls

Mean Girls

If you’ve ever watched Mean Girls, you would know that girls can be quite cruel. I’m no exception. I’ve had my fair share of experiences with a burnbook, a permanent position at the rumor mill, and have been caught in the middle of several non-sensible girl dramas.  As much as I would hate to admit it, I was quite proud of my burnbook… although I never called it that. I would describe what went in it, but I won’t because 1) This is the god damn Internet and the girl(s) I tortured could figure out that I was writing about them and 2) the idea is pretty genius and I don’t want to inject my cruel idea into the minds of a young girls. Besides, in this day and age, I’m sure someone out there has already devised something much unkinder.

Knowing how cruel girls can be through my experiences as both a victim and torturer, I resolved to only make friends with males. I felt that males were so much easier to talk to. They didn’t judge the outfit I had on, they were more likely to tell me the cold hard truth, better wing men (not that I would need the help ;) ) and better confidantes. I have never known a guy to spill my secrets. Tell a woman the same secret and forget about it. It’ll be plastered on the front page of the Toronto Star the next morning.

I’m not the only one who thinks this way. Many women share the same opinion. So much so that author Roxanne Gay dedicated a whole chapter in her book, “Bad Feminist” on female friendships and why it’s important to maintain them. Gay reminds us that there’s a cultural myth that female friendships are “bitchy, toxic and/or competitive” This may be true of some (unhealthy) friendships but this is not its defining characteristic.

Ladies, think about the good friendships you do have. How many of you can say that you can replicate the same feelings you have with your girlfriends with your male friends? Think about all the times you’ve cried laughing with your girlfriends while watching Legally Blonde for the 100^th time.  How many times you’ve shared in each other’s pain through menstrual cramps? How many times have you and your girlfriends binged on chocolate thanks to your cravings? Who came shopping with you for an outfit, only to come out empty handed several hours later? Who was there for you to vent to after you’ve had a bad date? Who can understand you better after a grueling workweek with your horrible boss? There are so many things that you can have with a female friendship that male friendships can’t offer… and realizing this is important.

As feminists, how can we hold equality close to our hearts if we, ourselves, exclude females from our circle of friends?  How can we fight for equality if we don’t treat each other as our own equals?  Gay reminds us to abandon the cultural myth that all female friendships are poisonous. It slows women down. Don’t let a few bad seeds ruin your image of the female friendship. To quote Gay, “ If you feel like it’s hard to be friends with women, consider that maybe women aren’t the problem. Maybe it’s just you."

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“From the Sidelines” is the section of the blog where I post links/ information about the pop culture references or resources I may have used in today’s post.

Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay ISBN- 978-0-06-228271-2

Mean Girls-https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sR528E5_8yI

Legally Blonde- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Aba_Om2NPLc

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Wannabe

Artist: Spice Girls

Album: Spice

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gJLIiF15wjQ

Cookie Cutter Feminism

Cookie Cutter Feminism: It doesn’t exist

We can’t all be the same kind of feminist

Like I’ve mentioned before, I took a gender studies elective in school. Here, we were exposed to several feminist theories that emerged over time as a result of the yesteryears. After learning about a handful of theories, three stood out to me:

1.    Liberal feminism: these feminists believe that even though women are biologically different, they are still human and therefore should be treated equal in all aspects of life. Liberal feminists aim to put women in the work force in such a way that there is no discrimination in gender. Here, women are encouraged to personify male qualities, such as aggressiveness and power, to succeed in the workplace. Think Jessica Pearson from Suits. She would do liberal feminists proud.

2.     Radical feminism: the notion that men and women are different, but equal. Emphasis in this theory is put on qualities that make women unique as a way to empower women. Such qualities include nurturance, empathy and compassion.

3.     Psychoanalytical feminism: women and men are forced into their gender roles due to the influence of society. The primary belief is that gender is not biologically determined but a role we play as a result of what society expects of us.  It’s something that we are taught as children, adopt, and share with the next generation.

Being a young, ambitious woman in a competitive world, I was mostly drawn to liberal feminism. It seemed like a perfect fit for my personality and I believed that this was the most obvious way to progress in the world as a female.  This idea encouraged me to adopt a ruthless feminist mentality that turned out to be very wrong. I think at that point, I took feminism to an extreme. In my mind, a forward thinking woman/modern woman/ woman exercising her female rights was someone who:

ü  Was dedicated to her education and/or career- she puts her career first before anything else

ü  Postponed having children because she needs to live her life to the fullest before giving up her life for someone else

ü  Did not need the support of a man because she’s Ms. Independent and she can do it all on her own

ü  Had strong and like-minded friends who she meets after work for drinks to talk about how successful she is doing in a ‘mans world’. If you’ve ever watched Lipstick Jungle, you would know what I’m talking about. (Side note: that show is totally underrated. Definitely check it out)

Women who didn’t fit this mould were, to me, anti-feminists and were wasting their female power. I was so snobby that I looked down on women who chose to be housewives despite their education. Hello! Do you not have dreams and ambitions? Why are you wasting your life taking care of a man when you can develop a successful career for yourself? You’re setting back the feminist movement!

…God, I was such a jerk

This line of thinking is totally wrong. Cruel even. Who am I to judge how you run your life? Who am I to determine your goals and ambitions? What really hit it home for me was when I started thinking about the psychoanalytical approach to feminism.  To reiterate, these feminists believe that society dictates the roles of males and females. We learn in childhood to identify traits as either masculine or feminine simply by watching our parents.  These early childhood experiences lead to gender inequality. Think about it. How many times have you heard someone (most likely a man, but I’ve heard women say it too) that women belong in the kitchen? I bet you would be less likely to believe that if you grew up watching your dad cook your meals.

Anyways, the point I’m getting at is this: if a psychoanalytically influenced feminist is fighting to strip away societal expectations for women, why are feminists fighting to reinvent new expectations for women? Why am I, a feminist at heart, telling women how to be a woman? Isn’t that exactly what psychoanalytical feminists were fighting against? I was asking women to make a shift from one kind of female to another... and that is wrong. What makes me any different from the society forcing down their expectation of women?

Ladies, you have the power and freedom to choose what type of woman you want to be. You can choose to be a career woman or a stay at home mom. That’s your choice. Embrace it. Own it. Live it. Just make sure that you strive to be the best in your chosen field. If I can tell past me about the folly of my old line of thinking, I would tell her, 

“Give these women a break! You call yourself a feminist yet you’re against women! Calm yourself, yah hypocrite.”

On that note... why are women so mean to each other? We can't fight for equality if we're busy pulling at each other's hair. Get it together, girls!

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“From the Sidelines” is the section of the blog where I post links/ information about the pop culture references or resources I may have used in today’s post.

For more information on feminist theories, I recommend “Gender Inequality: Feminist theories and politics” by Judith Lorber. ISBN: 978-0-19-537522-0

Jessica Pearson (Gina Torres)- This was the best I can find:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YYSmydABcFQ

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=azS90dTrXCE

 Lipstick Jungle- again, this is the best I can find:

 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q08dDGfqKLg

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Man! I Feel Like A Woman

Artist: Shania Twain

Album:Come On Over (1999)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJL4UGSbeFg